The Meaning of “Discover Who You Are”
Our friend Mike Torres transcribed the last answer I gave in the recent Fightworks Podcast interview for his own notebook, and send me a copy too. The question was the meaning of “Discover Who You Are”.
Essentially I’ve discovered that if you chip away at something, not only will you become more skilled at it but it will transform you. Jiu-jitsu is one of those rare life disciplines that can be interesting for decades… and it can stay with you in different periods of your life. So you start as a teenager, you’re at one mental space. You continue through college and your 20s… You get married, you have kids, you’re in your 30s. You know, the gym may get boring for you. You may enjoy rock climbing for a few years, you may enjoy mountain biking for a few years. You may enjoy those disciplines for an entire life. I feel that BJJ, or jiu-jitsu in general, is a dynamic form of yoga. I did not come up with that, that was Matt Thornton I originally heard that from. But I really feel it’s true. It takes you and puts you in a situation where you’re working with and against your evolutionary instincts to not be dominated.
It brings you to one pointed concentration while you are moving around on the mat and there’s something very cleansing about that, and there’s something that is kind of primal about that. And we’re able to funnel it through the techniques of jiu-jitsu; we’re able to actually transform these evolutionary instincts that we have to fight or flee. And be able to create something very rich and very complex; essentially a physical language where we can communicate with each other without exchanging words. You really can tell a person’s personality when you roll with them. So jiu-jitsu is a lifetime art [as Saulo said in the video]. And once you’re able to get on the escalator, you stick with it, you discover things about yourself.
I am much more skilled than I ever imagined I would be. Now that’s not to say that I’m the most skilled. There are plenty of guys that are way tougher but if you just stick with it. You think as a white belt, “Man, if I could only get my blue belt” then “If I could just get my purple.” And eventually you’re a black belt and you’re like “Man there’s so much more to learn”. It’s so much different. You definitely realize the high end and the low end and you discover your own limitations. And you learn to accept them. It’s OK. You know? You beat someone in a match, that’s great. You lose to someone in a match and you’re like, “Heh, that guys better”. And once you’re honest… once you’re honest with yourself, it just takes you down and squares you. There’s a certain truth and reality that the mat brings out in you that allows you to sit a little bit more comfortably in your own skin and in your own soul.
So that is “Discover Who You Are”.
Allow the discipline to transform you. A lot of people end up serving the discipline; they get injured, they give up their wife, they give up their job to chase the discipline. The discipline should enhance your life, you should never serve the discipline. And sometimes you lose perspective on that. I have certainly stepped over that line where I’ve lost perspective and overtrained. “Oh, this means so much.” Where you’re crushed after a loss, you’re elated after a victory. Hey man these are just markers, they’re milestones on your own journey. No one else is watching. It’s your own trip. Enjoy it. Craft your journey carefully and you will discover who you are.
Excellent article, I have certainly made that mistake and overtrained in the past, and its absolute true, unless you’re careful you do end up serving the art! - On a different note I discovered who I was in Spanish class last week, - someone that sucked!
Steve Greenaway from UK
on Thursday, May 12, 2011
good stuff
thanks.
jef_jon_son
on Thursday, May 12, 2011
Roy-
Roy-
After training with you for years I have found my own personal meaning to “discovering who I am”. I feel that by training with you I am able to learn about myself both on and off the mat. It forced me to learn about myself and the level of commitment I was willing to give. There are great times and times where life tries to tear me away. It is the dedication and balance of life I have learned through training at the academy that has benefited me most. I’m thankful we met at the time in my life when I was receptive to that guidance and look forward to many more years. The phrase that you said to me early when we met that has always stuck with me, “a black belt was a white belt who never quit”, that is what I have discovered, never stop the journey.
Donald from Bend
on Thursday, May 12, 2011
Very good article Roy. I could and can relate to many of the things that you spoke of. I am constantly trying to find the balance between training, family, and work.
John Blodgett from Roseburg, OR
on Friday, May 13, 2011
“Hey man these are just markers, they’re milestones on your own journey. No one else is watching. It’s your own trip. Enjoy it. Craft your journey carefully and you will discover who you are.”
Perfectly stated. It is amazing how you can flow your words just like your game.
Steve K from Bend
on Friday, May 13, 2011